Hey, it’s crazy out there! These are VUCA times- Volatile, Uncertain, Complex, Ambiguous. This concept applies to almost everything in our dynamic world. Daunting? No doubt, yes indeed.
But what if we embrace that we are exactly where we need to be? What if we actually incorporate the tools for collaboration and participation that we all have access to? What if we believe that we and our children have the capacity to heal and thrive in VUCA?
Our attention is our most valuable commodity at a time when distractions are fierce. Let us reset in the groundedness and stability that lies within.
At Modern Mind for Teens, we use *magic (Mindful Approach for Gynecologic Integrative Care) to cultivate the practices of heart centered health.
The adolescent brain is undergoing a phenomenal process called Brain Remodeling; pruning & myelination. Pruning involves removing the connections that are not used, and myelination takes the ones that are left and makes them faster. Whether an adolescent is pursuing an academic or athletic or artistic pursuit, they are likely to thrive with the brilliance and resilience of the adolescent brain. What other skills are needed to thrive in life despite setbacks and challenges? When do we struggle and what do we do in those times? Luckily, all brains have neuroplasticity, the amazing capacity to change and adapt. At Modern Mind for Teens, we cultivate practices for empathy, compassion and connection, so we can learn together in a state of receptivity rather than resistance.
The teenage brain is going through a process of self-discovery and the desire for more privacy is a natural part of growing up to gain autonomy and individuality. Giving kids more and more freedom is a key part of helping them develop the skills they need to be functioning adults. What resources will help them cultivate a sense of trust, community and support so they can maintain privacy rather than be driven toward secrecy?
At Modern Mind for Teens, we cultivate practices for safe and healthy self-discovery and sharing.
Self-worth, self-esteem, self-compassion; let’s uncover the jewels that are ours to keep
-Dr. Jenny Kim, Modern Mind MD
Positive affirmations build self-esteem in order to create a more stable sense of self-worth. In a world where we are constantly exposed to information and feedback, solicited or unsolicited, praiseworthy or humiliating, our sense of self-esteem can easily falter. What can we lean on in those times? Or rather, how can we lean in? The research on self-compassion is compelling. At Modern Mind for Teens, we cultivate practices for self-compassion so that our teens can fumble forward into the self-worth that every human deserves.
Teen Summer Workshops ‘Let’s Talk about Sex.’ In celebration of PRIDE month, this class is always inclusive of all genders. We honor adolescents in their process of growth and exploration. Getting to know oneself and one’s intentions allows us the courage to find love and happiness, require consent (a basic human right), and maintain healthy boundaries. Modern Mind for Teens provides the perspective of a gynecologist and meditation instructor- Register for a session in Boulder, Longmont, or request a workshop in your location:
My 17 yo daughter brought down a mason jar this morning. Seeing a new combination of orange, rosemary, and star anise, I looked at it with interest and wonder…
As I typically do, I made an assumption. “How did it taste?” I asked. She responds “It’s not to drink, it’s to smell,” and I perceive the familiar tone that I know well and receive as ‘Duh, mom, you’re so dumb, you never get me.’
I inhaled the aroma, I liked it, it was sweet & pleasant
I thought of all the times that she came downstairs in complete disgust of the smell of certain ethnic foods, receiving her dislike in the form of criticism, anger, and ‘you people are repulsive.’ And all of a sudden, perhaps resulting from the sweetness of the aroma I had just inhaled, I understood. I perceived something different- she has to notice what she doesn’t like to find the things that she does like, and indeed, the process of noticing is often UNPLEASANT.
the magic is the shift in perspective, seeing it all in a neutral light,
allowing it to be as it is, dropping the judgement
I have been inspired this week by the dozens of talks in the Parenting Teens in Uncertain Times Summit – the lesson that our teens are neurologically wired to detach and become independent reverberates through each and every talk. Teens are determined to explore the world in a way that is unique from their parents’ experience and so they must willfully exert their dissatisfaction, disdain and dislike for our ways. Ouch, whoa, the cruelty of parenting…and in surrender I place my hand on my heart to eject a release of oxytocin to sooth my soul.
How much gentler could it have been if I had never taken personally the process of discovery that showed up as anger? Will my brain and body rewire so that I can remember next time? The science tells me that yes, indeed, with mindful attention, my physiology is programmed to rewire and be gentler over time. Everyone has that capacity. Let’s drop in to what’s here, right now.